The Struggle with Self-Doubt

The Struggle with Self-Doubt

Healing
Self-doubt can be a barrier that hinders our growth and success. Recognizing Self-Doubt It's a big challenge for just about all of us. For a long time, I relied on others to boost my self-esteem, and convince me of my worth. Without a sense of our own value and awareness of our abilities, we're stuck in the mud with nowhere to go. If we rely on someone else to tell us we're good, or accept us, where's our own self-assurance foundation? It's important to believe in yourself right out of the gate. If you can't, then you need to learn ways to clear out that garbage, self-doubts, fears, underlying anger, and frustration. Over the years, I've encountered situations where my lack of self-assurance enabled others to take advantage or make…
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Break Free of Constant Grading and Rating

Break Free of Constant Grading and Rating

Healing, Lifestyle
Over the years I have had the pain and pleasure of working with all sorts of teachers. In my area, there are two universities, one college and plenty of elementary to high schools. Some of my aunts were teachers, plus my husband and son are teachers. So, all varieties of teachers have crossed my path, needing to improve their situations and symptoms. Most teachers’ response to anything new is to grade it. It's happened in hundreds of sessions with university and college professors, high school teachers and elementary school teachers. Let’s face it, they are trained for judging in their jobs. Rating and grading the performance of their students makes for a strong habit to rate everything. We All Rate Our Experiences https://youtu.be/lhY5nQjCs2g?si=7J0lyEKIAe0t-B6T Problems are created by a lack of…
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Are Some People Pests In Your Life?

Are Some People Pests In Your Life?

Nature
Today’s adventure involved wandering outside to check on the tomato plants we've been growing this summer. We have been enjoying having fresh tomatoes and some cucumbers. I was out having a look and noticed some branches getting a bit black on the edges. I thought “Something's going on” and started trimming off a little bit of a few branches on one plant. I was working away trimming, no big deal, but then started to notice a few little tomatoes had been chopped in half and eaten. I got a little more suspicious. As I was going along, I reached for another branch and touched underneath. It felt weird, it felt different and felt soft and puffy. So, I bent down and looked and there was this big giant, creepy hornworm.…
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Is What We Believe in Life Really True?

Is What We Believe in Life Really True?

Healing, Relationships
We are taught many early truths by family, unfortunately their wisdom isn’t always best for our success. A childhood moment that strongly affected me was my father’s words after viewing my excellent report card. “98? Why didn’t you get 100?” These few words had great power, along with negative comments and events that chipped away at my self-confidence. Dad was repeating his experience as youngest in the family. As parents our job is not to break the spirit of our children, nor is it to fill their heads with delusions and expectations. When we begin adult life feeling worthless and lacking confidence, how do we believe in our self and trust others? Starting off on the wrong foot is brutal, I’ve been there. Determined to break from my father’s rule,…
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Simply Speak Truth, It’s Better For All

Simply Speak Truth, It’s Better For All

Healing, Lifestyle, Relationships
I recently learned the meaning of a S*** Sandwich! OK call me naive (my kids often do) but I hadn’t heard the term before. A dear friend and client explained it to me the other day and I laughed so hard!! Many awkward situations I’ve experienced suddenly made sense! Times when people were saying nice things to me and yet it felt fake and untrue. They were not being genuine, unable to express their feelings and speak truth. Hearing that people actually plan how they will say the unpopular truth by wrapping it in something nice before and after - OMG seriously?! Say it Directly and Speak Truth, it's Better for All Adding a fake wrapper before and after doesn’t feel good for anyone, it actually feels like crap! Many…
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Do We Still Want Gold Star Approval?

Do We Still Want Gold Star Approval?

Lifestyle, Relationships
At some point on our life journey we've all had a need for approval in one form or another.It begins as a child when we look for our parents’ approval. Remember how good it felt to get a smile from Mom or Dad when you performed well? Or how horrible you felt when they were disappointed or disapproved? We all enjoy feeling good about ourselves, but some people develop a real thirst for approval. They want and need more appreciation for everything they do.Sadly the need for glory can mess a person up when it suddenly disappears. In my early school years I loved receiving gold stars for a job well done, we all did! The problem can exist in how we handle ourselves as teens and adults. Do we continue…
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